A friend of mine who has also been dealing with miscarriage sent me a link to the blog of a lady who has had multiple miscarriages and this list was on the side of her blog, so I thought I would share. I am sure that applies to any kind of lose, not only in miscarriage.
10 Ways to Encourage Someone Who Has Had a Miscarriage
1. Fill her arms with something to hold.
2. Initiate communication, "How are you today?" However, don't push conversation, she'll talk if she wants/needs to.
3. Don't say, "I know how you feel."
4. Listen, even if what she has to say is something she has said a hundred times.
5. Always use the name of her child.
6. When words fail, share silence or a hug.
7. Always remember special days with a note or gift (mother's day, birthday, day the child passed)
8. Remember, you can always give your Presence & Prayer.
9. Give Kleenex, a CD, book, or personalized piece of jewelry with the child's name engraved.
10. Don't use the phrases "Everything is going to be ok" or "God just must have a different plan for you." They hurt more than they help.
1 comment:
This couldn't have been said any better. It seems silly to think this isn't something people just know. All we can do is move forward by remembering these helpful tips for the ladies we will eventually meet that are in this same situation.
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